I posted on SOAM about two months ago. A lot has changed since my last post, and when I heard SOAM had a sister website I had to post an entry! Again I’d like to thank all of the women on SOAM and TIAW, you’ve all made me realize that no one should ever be ashamed of their body. We are all women and we should all be proud whether we’re fat, skinny, insecure, tall, short, white, dark, we are ALL beautiful!
When I last posted I was still very insecure about my body. I looked at myself daily and was reminded of the fact that every other girl my age has a perfect, flawless, unstretchmarked stomach. And what I had was a saggy flabby mess. My self esteem plunged even farther when my daughter’s father broke up with me and on the SAME EXACT DAY started dating another girl. And of course she had that perfect body I wanted so desperately. I struggled and fought with depression over this for a while until I realized that this is all pointless. What does a perfect body matter in the long run? Did her perfect body create his child? No! It didn’t! Does her perfect body mean that she’s a good person on the inside? No! So why was I fretting over something so pointless? I admit, the thought of wanting a perfect body again pops up in my head occasionally. But there’s no point in it. I’ll never have that body again and all I can do is appreciate and love the body I have today. The very same body that created my perfect daughter. I love my stretch marks now. I absolutely LOVE them. And I don’t look at my c-section scar as a failure to give birth naturally like I wanted, I look at it as a badge of honor. The only thing I don’t like about my body is my wrinkly, squishy tummy, but I can live with it.
I’m 8 months postpartum now, and still have 15 of my 60 pounds to lose. I’ve been eating well, doing exercises to close my diastasis recti, and have started running every night after I put my daughter to sleep. No, I do not look the way I want to, but I FEEL great. I’ve been doing online school since my daughter was born, and I intend to finish high school so I’m not a “statistic”. No, I do not get to do all of the things I used to be able to do, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I love my daughter more than anything, and no one can say that teen mothers are too physically and emotionally unstable to give birth to and raise a child. My body gave birth to a healthy 9 lb 2 oz baby, and it’s been ME (not my parents) who has raised her. So yes there is hope out there for teen mothers who are struggling with people putting them down. Hold your heads high girls! Don’t let ANYONE underestimate you. Again, if there are any teen mothers or pregnant teens who need advice or just want to talk you can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Picture 1: Me the night before my c-section.
Picture 2: Me at 3 months postpartum.
Picture 4 & 5: Me now at 8 months postpartum.
Picture 6: My beautiful baby girl.