I posted a few years ago on TSOAM about my struggle with PCOS and infertility and being overweight as a newlywed. When you get married that’s the question on everyone’s lips… “When are you two gonna have a baby?”. I got so tired of giving phony baloney answers like “Oh, we aren’t ready” or “We’re waiting a while”, that I started answering truthfully. I said “Because my ovaries are rotten and I can’t have children.”. People stopped asking after a while. How sad is that? I went though bouts of hating my body, feeling like a failure as a woman, I pushed my husband away, even at times questioning my faith. It got to the point where I didn’t even want to go see my friends who had babies. I couldn’t stand it, and I got angry at myself for feeling that way. I went to the doctor to see what could be done, and they told me oral contraceptives were my only option. Well, that helps me have babies how? After consideration I went ahead and took the pill for 2 years. It helped me manage my symptoms and reduced my cysts, but all of that does no good if it prevents me from getting pregnant! Doctors, right? I know. You do the math on that one. Anyway, After I posted to TSOAM, I received so much support and realized that so many women were affected by that disease, suddenly I didn’t feel so alone anymore. Here I am, 4 years later, 45 lbs down, a regular cycle, no pill, manageable symptoms… still with no children. But I’m not discouraged. I do have hope. It will happen when the time is right. I love TIAW/TSOAM and I am so thankful to have stumbled upon it.
Age: 26
October 18th, 2012 at 11:52 am
Sarah,
I too have struggled with PCOS and all of the associated symptoms and complications. But, don’t give up hope. I’m 44yo now. At 30, I took two cycles of clomid and ended up with beautiful boy/girl twins. Not ever expecting to have any more children, I ended up with a SURPRISE baby girl three years later. I have still have PCOS symptoms, but three kids later, I have no regrets. Give yourself some time.
October 18th, 2012 at 4:29 pm
I’ve thought about taking Clomid, but I have concerns about a multiple birth and also the cost of the medication. I want children, and I suppose if you want something bad enough you’ll do what it takes.
November 19th, 2012 at 8:00 am
I am now sixty,I have struggled with PCOS all my life,excessive hair,infertility,mood swings,it effects me now.That do’snt mean I did’nt have children,I have three,all grown up,ages 37,27,20,all boys.I had children when I stopped thinking about it,I know it’s easy to say,but I usually got pregnat when i’d started a new job or even lost one etc.It will happen,but dont look for help from the doctors,they are not sympathetic.the pill was in my day the only option.It made your period more regular so as when I came off it I usually got caught,even though I only ovulated four times a year.
February 11th, 2013 at 3:10 am
Hi Sarah,
I too fought PCOS. My husband comes from a super fertile family so for years I was odd woman out. After one year of trying naturally (and one devistating miscarrage) my husband and I started clomid AND nothing! Not even a missed period. I then tried ovarian drilling, still nothing. So I gave up. Started taking birth control to regulate my cycles. Started couch to 5K. Got pregnant!!! I was taking metformin to treat my “pre diabetes”. That along with weight loss and FINALLY getting my hormones in balance is what did the trick. I know that may not be your answer. “Stop thinking about it and it will happen” was the most painful piece of advise I was ever given. Even though I had given up I still thought about it all the time. I’m rooting for you. Kick PCOS’s butt!
BTW when I was taking clomid it was a $5 prescription at walmart. Just never gave them my insurance card 😀